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Way to state the obvious and waste your digital calling card. He was due some leave from his unspecified nautical job in three months, and could we “meet up and see how things progress? There were plenty more from those who clearly weren't a good match – guys in the 50 plus age bracket, guys who lived in Australia, guys who were saving their first kiss for marriage.
There was also a serious sense of humour failure, as if the men on there were worried that “being a bit funny” is the work of Satan and no self-respecting Christian would dare make a joke. At least Public Praying Man made it to the dating stage – but his penchant for saying grace out loud made me feel, as many of the men's profiles did, that I wasn't Christian enough to go out with a Christian.
What with more female churchgoers than men, the odds are already stacked against women and sometimes you have no choice but to look outside your immediate pool.
Secondly, where else do you meet Christians these days?
Of course, it's not just Christian women who try and find a partner who will share their culture and beliefs.
Leah*, an accountant from London, tells me how she joined JDate, the leading dating website for the Jewish community, because it's important to her that the potential father of her children would be able to teach them about their heritage.
Instead said blokes had chosen to write strings of generic proclamations about how much they loved the Lord. I was getting that vibe already guys, considering you've chosen to join a religious dating site. He was writing from the waters off the coast of Canada, and wondered if I'd wait for him.
And thirdly, because I'd become really tired of trying to explain my faith to the atheists I was dating, who at best looked on it as a quaint eccentricity, and at worst just thought I was an idiot.
Unfortunately, as hit and miss as internet dating can be on mainstream, generic sites, it gets even worse on the niche ones, contrary to what you'd expect – at least in my experience and several other women I've shared tales of woe with.
“It's pressure from my family but also pressure from myself – I think life would just be easier, and better, if my partner was Jewish,” she tells me.
It was all so banal, so pleasant, so utterly devoid of irony or character or anything interesting. Because while my religion is foundational, from then on in, I am still an individual with my own tastes, likes, dislikes and sense of humour.