Flirting dating others
Listen, if anybody in the world would be expected to defend an inappropriate flirt, it’s me.I’ve toed the line for so many years that I don’t even know where the line is anymore.He tells me all the time how beautiful I am, and sexy, etc., and how lucky he is to have found me. The problem is, that whenever we go out, he looks at other women. I think that it’s rude to my partner, although I am tempted to show him how it feels! I couched it in a joking form, to make the comment, but let him know that I’ve noticed his staring. I didn’t ask him why, just said something to the effect of: “oh, it’s the beer in her hand you were looking at?! How do I avoid an argument that will be simply denial on his part, and be productive to let him know this really bothers me, that he goes out of his way to look/stare?He says almost every day that he wants to marry me, and how he misses me terribly when we are apart. How do I let him know that I don’t trust his words, then, that he thinks I’m beautiful, etc., if he’s got to look at every woman we pass by?
I’m dating this man, who on many, many counts is really wonderful. He is also extremely clever with humor, and easily silly and good with the come-backs that are hysterically funny. It makes me question his feelings for me, and his comments that I’m so beautiful, and here he’s looking at all these other women. He’s told me many times that he feels that men are envious around him of me. He must have stared at this woman for 10 minutes before he said he wanted a beer.
He’s a very intelligent man, classy, generous, loving and not a womanizer. He gets so caught up in it, even while holding my hand and walking past shops, he’ll head into one, if he sees someone attractive inside. He’s even go so far as to look behind me to see someone again, and has looked long enough many times to make eye-contact. But it’s these long-looks, or just about forgetting that I’m there right next to him, that are really bothering me. I do get looked at often by men, but I don’t make eye contact like he does. I’ve only once made a comment about what he was looking at recently. Other than that, he seems oblivious to his behavior.
It would easy to demonize your boyfriend as evil, but you bother to mention that he is sociable, that he praises your beauty, and that he wants to marry you.
Which is why his over-the-top leering is so highly inappropriate….
But he does have a shy side and is uncomfortable in large groups where he knows no one.
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I appreciate all the details you provided, Karen, because they paint a fully-fleshed out picture of your relationship.